Welcome to tales my Mother told me...
Tale Two: "Your Mind is Powerful"
This week
I want to share with you a story about my mum when she was a little girl.
The story
took place in her new home over 70 years ago. Mum was adopted by her aunt and
migrated from China to Vietnam when she was only 8 years old. In her new family
there were also 5 other children who were also adopted. My grandparents did not
have any children of their own so therefore they wanted lots of children
to bring noise and joy to their big home. Unlike the other 5 children, mum
was alone, her parents and siblings were all still in China, she was lonely and
scared in this new family.
Mum was the
newest member to the family and it was difficult for her to adjust to this new
life, new family and new place and the worst part of all she missed her family
terribly. Her life was not easy in the beginning as she was bullied by an
older boy whom I called Uncle Quin. Uncle Quin also has a sister and who was
younger than my mum and her name was Aunty May.
Uncle
Quin would pick on my mum a lot and whenever there were house tasks to do
he always insisted mum had to share the work load with him. One day, his
job was to fill up water in the two huge ceramic urns. He was not happy that he
had to do it all by himself and so he made mum fill up the water urns with
him as mum was the eldest girl out of the children and he was the eldest boy.
The other
children all yelled out to him and said "that's not fair, Big Sis is a
girl and smaller than you, you can't expect her to carry water from the well
with the heavy buckets and the water urn is bigger than her. There is no way
she can do that”.
He
grinned and said "well that's too bad! She still has to do it even if
she can’t and no one is allowed to help her".
So my mum
was left with this big task ahead of her and she had no idea how to get the job
done and the more she thought about how big the task was the head
chatter in her mind confirmed that it was too hard and too big a job for
her to do. She was crying the whole time as she tried to get the water from the
well. Crying for her mum back home and crying for her help.
"Don't
cry Big Sis" said a little girl, it was my Aunty Le. Your mum is not here,
she can't help you and I am sorry we can’t help you either. We are too small
and too weak. Why don't you have a rest, your mum wouldn't like to see you like
this. Then mum stopped and started to think back at what her mum said to her
before she left home. "My dear child, I won’t be around you from now on, so
make me proud, there will be times when you don't feel so good away from
home so just remember this "be strong for me, my love, if you are strong,
your mind stays strong and you can do anything you want if you believe in
yourself".
Mum then
stood up tall and walked to Uncle Quin and said "Stop picking on me just
because I am new to the family and because I am small. I know you are bigger
and stronger than me and I’m not here to compete with you. I may be small and
weak and yes it will take me longer to fill up the water urn and that’s okay as
I have the time, even if it takes me till midday to finish the job and I
will get it done.
With the
heavy bucket, mum filled it half way each time and slowly poured the water into
the urn. Although it did take her awhile, she did it and eventually filled up
the urns. She achieved this because she changed her thought process.
"We are shaped by our thoughts; we
become what we think"-
Buddha
So, from
this tale, I learnt that our mind is incredibly powerful. Your life and your business
is a reflection of your thoughts. When you think about that, there is nothing that
is too hard or easy…your thinking just makes it so’
Buddha
also said "The mind is everything. What you think you become".
In life
and business if you think you are weak and hopeless then you are formed by your
thoughts. Just like mum, she thought she couldn’t do it in the beginning until
she reframed her own mind and instead of giving up she became determined.
Her goal at the time was to fill the urn with water and the task was bigger
than she could chew so she filled the bucket halfway and slowly she was able to
fill the urn until it was full. Just like your business lifestyle if you have a
big goal and it’s too hard to achieve, what you can do is to break down the
goals to sub goals and into small tasks so it makes it easy for you to manage,
so you don’t get discouraged, overwhelmed and end up procrastinating.
Have you heard the funny joke
about how to eat an elephant? One bite at a time!
So if you
throw away those harmful thoughts and negative actions and cultivate all the
positive thinking and goodness you CAN change and inspire your business lifestyle
and the world you live in.
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Tune in next
Friday for tale 3: "The Importance of Self Understanding"
More Tales My Mother Told Me...
Volume 1:
Volume 1:
Tale 2: "Your Mind is Powerful"
Tale 4: "Being Compassionate"
Tale 6: "The Magic Pen"
Tale 8: "Confidence & Competence"
Tale 11:"I never see what has been done; I only see what remains to be done"
Tale 12: "Frog In The Well"
Tale 12: "Frog In The Well"
Volume 2:
Tale 3: Talking about army on paper.
Tale 4: Being Persistent
Tale 5: A Poet’s Writing Skills Decline
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